Living a Life that totally Glorifies God

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OPENING COMMENT

For starters I’d like to say, that we should thank our awesome God for creating sex between and man and his wife. For God is not a killjoy, but He is the reason for our joy. He takes us from the black and white and helps us to see things in pastel colors. In fact, our Savior Jesus Christ said:"The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly. (John 10:10 NKJV). He died for our sins so that we can truly be free from the bondage of sin and death and to live life in all its fullness. And of course, this includes sex.

Now, God created sex and wants us not only to express our love to one another through it, but to richly enjoy it as well. For it is sex between a man and a woman which can bring about the most intense physical pleasure that two people can ever experience. For it’s one of those pleasures of life that even brings forth new life. So, this being the case, doesn't it make sense that we should richly enjoy sex? Unfortunately, there are people who look down upon it and try to restrict it or even limit it to a set of rules and regulations. Now my question is, why would anyone want to restrict or limit what God has given to a husband and wife to enjoy? For we have seen in the Catholic Church the unfortunate results of those who have given heed to the doctrine of devils and restricted themselves from marriage. For God’s word says: “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled” which means marriage is good for everyone and that sex is not to be viewed as dirty, defiling or unholy (Hebrews 13:4). And let us remember we ourselves are here because our parents had a sexual encounter as well.


Having said that however, we still need to use caution when it comes to this area of physical intimacy. For it can be so easy to take things out of perspective and focus only on ourselves instead of our mate. For we must not overlook the fact that sex is to be an act of giving as well as receiving. For we are to focus on bringing pleasure to our spouse who in turn should want to bring pleasure to us. It can truly be a beautiful act when the couple has this attitude of giving to one another. Also, we need to be careful not to fall into uncontrolled lust and end up sinning against God and hurting others as well as ourselves. Because remember, if you live for pleasure you will die, but if you live for God, he will give you all things to enjoy in their proper time and place. That’s why we need the Holy Spirit daily to help us put all these things into their proper perspective. His Word tells us to walk after the Spirit so that we can put off the deeds of the flesh. Therefore, let us always read and meditate on his Word and be doers of it. Amen.

 

THE DOCTRINE OF DEMONS
Now the Spirit expressly says that in latter times some will depart from the faith, giving heed to deceiving spirits and doctrines of demons, speaking lies in hypocrisy, having their own conscience seared with a hot iron, forbidding to marry, [and commanding] to abstain from foods which God created to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe and know the truth. (1 Timothy 4:1-3 NKJV)

It was the medieval Roman Catholic attitude that marriage was inferior to celibacy, that all sexual contact between marital partners was a necessary evil to propagate the human race, and that a procreative act that involved passion was inherently sinful. This negative view was rooted in the ancient church and based on the writings of such notables as Tertullian, Ambrose, and Jerome, all of whom believed that, even within marriage, intercourse necessarily involved sin. This attitude toward marital intimacy, which dominated the church for more than ten centuries, inevitably led to the glorification of virginity and celibacy. By the fifth century, clerics were prohibited from marrying. Two classes of Christians emerged: the “religious” (i.e., the spiritual clergy), which included monks and nuns who vowed to abstain from all sexual activity, and the “profane” (i.e., the secular laity), who, being unable to rise to the noble heights of virginity or celibacy, were conceded the right to marry.
From Nathan W. Bingham Feb 14, 2014 Category: Articles


Unfortunately, this Roman Catholic way of thinking is still prevalent in the modern church today, not only in the Catholic church, but also in the non-Catholic as well. It has brainwashed us to view sex as dirty and defiling even with our own spouses. We're afraid to talk about it as though the words themselves were evil, even hiding it from our kids in such a way that they also end up feeling that it's wrong; but of course, we know this is not true. God created it to be richly enjoyed and even dedicating a whole book (Song of Songs) that describes lovemaking in a poetic fashion. So, let's break away from our false views of sex and come to a place where we can embrace it and richly enjoy it as God intended.


First things First
And He answered and said to them, "Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning 'made them male and female,' "and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? (Matthew 19:4-5)

WHAT IS A MARRIAGE?

So, what constitutes a marriage? Well first off, let me tell you what it’s not. It’s not about a man getting down on one knee and proposing to the woman whom he hopes to marry; it’s not about setting a wedding date, finding a church and making arrangements with a Minister; and it’s not about holding off from having sex until that Minister (or whomever else you may have chosen to wed you) says, “I now pronounce you man and wife.” That is not what constitutes a marriage.


A marriage is simply a man and woman who have committed to spend their lives together as husband and wife. No need for a Minister, no big church wedding, and no holding off of all sexual intimacy until some man (or in some cases a woman) pronounces you man and wife. For its God Himself that has already approved your marriage. For His word says, "But from the beginning of the creation, God 'made them male and female.' 'For this reason, a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, 'and the two shall become one flesh'; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh. "Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate." (Mark 10:6-9 NKJV) There you go, it’s God who pronounces them man and wife, and not our man-made system.

 
ACCORDING TO GOD'S WORD
Drink waters from your vessels And from the fountains of your spring. Do not let the waters from your fountain be spilled by you, But let your waters pass through your wide places; Let them be only for you, And let no stranger partake with you; Let the fountain of your water be for you alone, And rejoice together with the wife of your youth. Let your loving deer and graceful colt keep company with you, And let her alone go before you and be with you at all times; For in living with her love, you will be great. (Proverbs 5:15-19 Sept.)

SO, WHAT IS PERMISSIBLE?
Now some may ask, what is permissible during sexual intimacy. Well, we know according to Gods word, all sexual acts outside of a lifelong committed relationship is wrong. But within a committed relationship, we should not only be richly enjoying it, but have a fruitful outcome as well. For our main intentions should not only be to bring pleasure to each other, but most of all to bring new life into this world. For this should be true whether or not conception is possible at the time we're having sex (this will be more explained below). However, we must remember that all our pleasures in life are to be beneficial to life and for life. Any intentions outside of that will only lead to a feeling of incompleteness or emptiness. Now of course there are those who may have some physical problems that can make it difficult, or even imposable (according to the worlds standard) to have children. But let's remember that God is a God of miracles, so let's not limit what he can do. If he can bring children out of couples that are well advanced in years, he certainly can do the same for you, regardless of your limitations. So, regardless of our circumstances, just keep enjoying sexual intimacy with each other and leave the rest up to God.


So, having said that, let’s start with foreplay. When a couple engages in sexual foreplay (yes, this should include the act of performing oral sex on each other), they are preparing each other for vaginal intercourse. It’s kind of like an appetizer before the main course. This act of oral sex should be enjoyed by both the husband and wife and should not be looked down upon but embraced by the couple because it is actually recorded in God’s word in the book of Song of Songs chapter 2:3 as well as 4:16. Here in this book we have a God given guide to the pleasures of marriage which include not only vaginal sex, but shows the couple enjoying oral sex as well. From the admiring of each other’s body, to the engaging in sexual pleasure, God shows us how a couple can enjoy their relationship with each other. Sex should be the most intense pleasure that a couple can experience together. Now having said that, we should not neglect going to the next phase after foreplay and that would be vaginal intercourse. This should always be a couple’s main goal whenever possible, because from it comes not only an intense pleasure that surpasses all other sexual acts, but as mentioned before brings forth new life as well. This should bring great joy to our hearts.

So, does that mean that every time we engage in sex it has to lead to vaginal intercourse with the intent to conceive? Of course not. For there are times when a couple can enjoy sex when conception would be imposable. A good example of this would be during a woman's pregnancy (in which the couple can give oral sex to each other for a safer pregnancy) or during the week after or before a woman's menstrual cycle where conception would not occur. Here, a couple can engage in sex freely with each other and reap a benefit, not only for each other but for the future of the baby as well.

TWO BECOMING ONE FLESH
Now let's talk about the two becoming one flesh. There may be some that think the physical sexual act qualifies a man and his wife to become one flesh. But, does joining body parts really make a person one with another? Would this also mean if two people are holding hands, they are one in the flesh as well? Of course not. Thus, a couple cannot become one in the flesh unless there is a passing on of the man's semen to his wife during the sexual act. For when a woman receives her husband’s semen ether vaginally or orally, her body actually absorbs all of its components and it literally becomes a part of her as mentioned above.

Now, there are those who may face physical infirmities such as erectile dysfunction, in which vaginal intercourse may be (or always is) impossible. These same couples would have to resort to alternate sexual acts that they can perform on each other such as oral sex as well as taking advantage of sexual devices designed for men with ED. Of course, the couple would have to get creative in their sexual acts and find ways to capture the man’s semen and preserve it for artificial insemination in their quest to have children. Thank God there are devices designed for couples to aid them in conception during these times.

So, in conclusion to what was stated above, we should not be wasteful but be fruitful in our lovemaking acts. We cannot be as Onan was who wasted his semen on the ground and was judge by God (Genesis 38). For the husband’s semen should always be received by the wife regardless how they perform their lovemaking act. See web links listed below for more info on this subject concerning the benefits of semen.

(FYI - For those who are skeptical on all this, please read the Song of Songs 2:3 as well as chapter 4:16. In this passage we have a colorful description of a woman performing oral sex on her husband as well as her inviting him to come into her garden and eat of its pleasant fruits (perform oral pleasure on her as well). This is clearly showing that God instituted oral sex, and wants us to partake and enjoy the fruit of each other body. God is a wonderful creator; a total genius in everything he does. So, I encourage all you couples to totally seek God in all these things and to pray that He would help you to break away from your old traditions and gladly embrace the truth of His word.

Awake, O north wind, And come, O south wind; Blow through my garden And let my spices flow out. Let my beloved come to his garden And eat of its fruits. (Song of Songs 4:16 Sept.)


A TIME FOR PREPARATION
It is a known scientific fact that when a woman receives a man’s semen orally, it helps prepare her body for pregnancy and thus would be benefiting for the baby. For studies have shown that after a few hours of receiving her husband’s semen, its components can be detected already in her bloodstream. Thus, receiving semen through oral sex, she is conditioning her body to recognize her husband as an acceptable part of her. For researchers from the University of Adelaide in South Australian found that semen contains a growth factor which helps persuade a mother's immune system to accept sperm. It claims to have found evidence that regular exposure before pregnancy, especially by mouth, helps her immune system get used to her partner's sperm. Disorders during pregnancy often stem from the battle between the immune system and the fetus as a 'foreign body'. Many of its 'foreign' proteins come courtesy of the father's genes so if the mother is regularly exposed to them her body is more likely to accept them. Professor Gustaaf Dekker, from the University said: "If there's repeated exposure to that signal then eventually when the woman conceives, her cells will say, 'we know that guy, he's been around a long time, we'll allow the pregnancy to continue."

We can see a similar thing to be true through a Dutch study as well, which also found that women who swallowed their male partner’s semen during oral sex had a lower risk of pre-eclampsia which sometimes accompanies pregnancy. Again, this is all because it conditions a mother’s immune system to accept the “foreign” proteins found in sperm as well as the resulting fetus and placenta, keeping blood pressure low and thereby reducing the risk of pre-eclampsia. So, it is essential for the wife during those conception down times to do this not only for her own wellbeing, but for her future child as well (before the consummation of the marriage, during pregnancy or during those times outside of ovulation).

BENEFITS FOR THE WIFE
First the wife. As stated above, when a woman receives her husband’s semen, whether by vaginal or oral intercourse, she is receiving a vitamin store full of nutrients and other health benefits. For her body actually absorbs all of its components of the semen and it literally becomes a part of her. For studies have shown that after a few hours of receiving her husband’s semen, its components can be detected already in her bloodstream. For it's a fact that, along with its baby making sperm, semen is packed with all kinds of nutrients such as proteins, minerals, vitamins, mood-enhancing components including: cortisol (increases affection), estrone (elevates mood), prolactin (a natural antidepressant), oxytocin (also elevates mood), thyrotropin-releasing hormone (another antidepressant), melatonin (a sleep-inducing agent) and even serotonin (perhaps the most well-known antidepressant neurotransmitter). For this reason, the health benefits of semen intake, both vaginally and orally, has begun to be studied by scientists. So, even during the down times that vaginal intercourse would be out of the question, a woman would still be doing her body good by receiving her husband semen during oral sex. For she would not only get the health benefits as stated above, but would also be conditioning her body to have a safe pregnancy as well. Our God is such a Genius. And just like fine cheese or wine, or any exotic type food, semen has a flavor that should be enjoyed by women (if they would just get over the ridiculous "gross factor")

BENEFITS FOR THE MAN
Now we come to the next benefit of sex, and that would be for the man. Not only is sex healthy for the man’s prostate, but along with its intense sexual pleasure, he receives the gratification of knowing that she is becoming one with him and that he is passing along those benefits as mentioned above. Of course, this would include not only vaginally, but orally as well.  For even during oral sex, the man takes great delight knowing that she is enjoying a part of him, even as did the wife in the book of Song of Songs 2:3. This is very personal and intimate for the man because his semen is a part of himself, and therefore it brings him a feeling of completeness when she receives it. On the other hand, when a wife rejects it or even talks negatively about it, he himself can experience a feeling of rejection as well. So ladies, whether you are giving oral pleasure to your husband or enjoying vaginal intercourse with him, the man receives compete gratification and a feeling of completeness when you gladly receive his semen from him. This becomes even more true when he is aware of the benefits that you are receiving from it as mentioned above. It's a beautiful giving and receiving act that's God himself created and designed. Only true joy and fulfillment can be experienced by both partners through an act of completeness.


The Proper way to say I Do

So she went down to the threshing floor and did according to all her mother-in-law instructed her. And Boaz ate, and his heart was cheerful. He went to lie down at the end of the heap of grain, and she came softly and uncovered his feet. (Ruth 3:6-7)

YOU PARENTS KNOW BEST

Now, let us set things in their proper order and the perfect place to start would be the parent’s approval of the couple. For its only when both sides of the family have come to the agreement that these two should get married, that the wedding of the two should proceed. This is biblical and we should take heed to God’s word on this. How many heartaches and sorrows could have been avoided if a young man or woman would have listened to their parents advise (and most of all God’s) concerning who they should marry. We can see this to be true in both the Old Testament as well as the New. For it’s the parents who have already gone down that road so it would be wise for the less experience to heed their advice.

THE BETROTHAL

Now, after there has been the approval of the parents on both sides, there needs to be a move on the woman’s part to show that she is truly willing to give herself to the man she is to wed. For we can see from the bible that it’s not the man, but it’s the woman who is to take the initiative to show her willingness to give herself in marriage. For let it be said, that it’s not the man getting down on one knee with a ring in his hand proposing to the woman and she saying “I do,” but it’s to be the woman getting down on her knees and offering to perform oral sex on the man she is to spend the rest of her life with. Yes, this is biblically true. For we can see this taking place when Ruth "uncovered" Boaz’s feet. This was an act to show that she was ready and willing to perform oral sex on him, and thus to betroth herself to him. We can see this act to be true also in Song of Songs where the wife speaks of her beloved’s semen as a nutritious apple that is sweet in her mouth. For she says in chapter 2:3, “As the apple among the trees of the woods, so is my beloved among the sons. I desired to be in his shadow and to sit down; and his fruit was sweet in my mouth.” This is the most intimate way that a woman can express her willingness to give herself as well as receive the man as her own. Of course, the man would make the next move by allowing her to follow through with this act which would show that he is willing to receive her and give himself as well.


FYI – We know from the story in the book of Ruth that was mentioned above, Boaz held off and did not allow her to fulfill her intent until he was sure that he had the right to take her as his wife. But most of us know that he did end up with her, and I’m sure he allowed her to follow through on that act which she was so willing to do.


Yes, I know that this fly's in the face of our man made system of marriage that says there is to be no sexual contact till after a Minister declares a couple as man and wife. But let's remember it's not the wedding ceremony that makes a couple married, but it's the giving of each other to each other. For the betrothal period is part of the marriage and it's there to help prepare the woman's body to recognize the man whom she is to conceive by. That's why receiving the man's semen orally during the betrothal period is so important for her and the future of the baby. How often this should be done during the betrothal period depends on the couple, but we know the more the woman receive it, the more her body will recognize that this is the man from whom she is to conceive. It's all a preconditioning that is instituted by God Himself in His word. How many miscarriages could have been avoided by a couple if they only would have practice this. Unfortunate we have altered the truth though our man made system that says you must wait till the wedding night. So, let’s break ourselves away from our man-made traditions which was instituted by the corrupt teaching of the Church of Rome. This corruption of the Church went even as far as to teach it’s better for the world (the people) to go extinct than to have sex and populate it. It's time we started living in God's truth and not our man-made twisted truth. God help us.​

SO, WHY HAVE A MARRIAGE?
So, one may ask, “why even have a marriage if the woman already pledged herself to the man through this act of oral sex? Why not just move on to sexual intercourse? Well, why should we have a funeral where everybody gets together? Death has already taken place, so why not just let the undertaker bury the dead. Well, because we all know it’s a time to pay our respects in honoring those who have past as well as a time to encourage each other who are still living. So, it is the same for the marriage celebration. And according to the bible, it is a time to celebrate the union of the man and woman who have already pledged and betrothed themselves to one another. Of course, this wedding ceremony would end with the groom taking his bride into the bridal chamber where the final consummation of the couple takes place, which would involve vaginal intercourse. This is the man’s final act of embracing his wife by going into her and thus sealing the marriage.


More on Sex
“Every word I command you today, be careful to observe; you shall not add to it nor take away from it.” (Deuteronomy 13:1)


MISCONCEPTIONS CONCERNING SODOMY
The act of sodomy is not restricted to a specific sexual act (such as anal sex), but it is any sex in general that is being practiced between two men. We can see this to be true in the scripture that says: If a man lies with a male as he lies with a woman, both committed an abomination. They shall be put to death, for they are guilty. (Leviticus 20:13 Sept.) Please notice that it says: “as he lies with a woman” which of course is referring to any sexual acts which can be performed between a man and woman which in turn could be used between two men. So, that being said, we should not judge a couple on how they enjoy sex, even anal sex. For God's word does say that all things are permissible, but let's also remember that it says that all things aren't beneficial as well. So, in all things, let's use God given discernment and allow the Holy Spirit to put all things into perspective for us. Now concerning myself, I never tried it and I don't plan on trying it (unless my wife would like me to). But again, I have no right to judge those who do enjoy it because God Himself does not condemn it. Amen

BIRTH CONTROL
So, what about birth control? Should we really be using it? First of all, I strongly believe that the use of birth control in general can be an act of selfishness and be displeasing to God. For we must remember that babies are not an inconvenience but a blessing. So, any couple that's putting off having babies because they want to pursue a career or some other vain pursuit, should be ashamed of themselves. Let’s remember God's commandment which said for us to be fruitful and multiply. But please don’t get me wrong on this. As I said before, I do believe God allows sex at times without the intentions for conception. But again, our main goal should always be a desire to bring new life into the world. These same children have the wonderful opportunity to know God and His love for us, as well as experience the pleasures He has so richly bestowed on us. And let's not forget that we had parents who gave us the opportunity to have life as well. So let's not be selfish but partner instead with God and fill His Kingdom with saved souls. Amen.

As the apple among the trees of the woods, So is my beloved among the sons. I desired to be in his shadow and to sit down; And his fruit was sweet in my mouth. (Song of Songs 2:3 Sept.)

YOUR MEASURE OF FAITH
Now having said all this, we must keep in mind that not everybody is at the same level of faith when it comes to sexual intimacy. For some, being weak in faith may limit themselves to some simple basics, while others faith allows them to totally indulge in it as describe above. So, wherever your faith may allow you to go, you should enjoy it and give thanks to God without looking down or condemning others. We need to be careful not to put a stumbling block nor a guilt trip on a fellow Christian. We can see this to be true in the book of Romans chapter 14 where it says that we are not to judge but to leave that up to God. It is before him that we stand or fall, and according to his word, he will make us stand.

Let it be Known

"Let us be glad and rejoice and give Him glory, for the marriage of the Lamb has come, and His wife has made herself ready." (Revelation 19:7)


A BEAUTIFUL METAPHOR 

As stated before, a betrothed woman who first receives her husband’s semen through oral sex, demonstrates her acceptance of him and shows that she is giving herself over to him to be his wife. This is a very intimate act which should be performed during the engagement period and well before they engage in vaginal intercourse (which should be reserved for their wedding night). This is ordained by God himself and is demonstrated in his word as was stated above. Again, this is all to condition the betrothed wife's body beforehand to recognize her husband as the one from whom she is to conceive and to bring forth new life. Unfortunately, Satan tries to blind the eyes of both men and the women by convincing them otherwise. God help us all.

So, this life we are living in the world today is just an appetizer before the main course. What I mean is this; just as a woman betroths herself to her beloved by receiving his semen orally and thus becoming one with him in the flesh, we in like manner betroth ourselves to Christ by receiving Him Spiritually in our hearts and thus become one with Him in Spirit. But the main course is yet to come. Again, what I mean is this; just as the bride who now is betrothed to her man waits with anticipation the consummation of her marriage (vaginal intercourse where she experiences the fullness of pleasure with her man), so we wait in anticipation for the marriage of the Lamb (our Spiritual consummation) when we as a church are joined to our Savior Jesus and thus see Him face to face. This is where we (along with our Savior Jesus) will experience true fullness of joy indeed. In all this, we should be acknowledging God as well, praising and giving thanks to Him.

Having more than one Wife
(No, I'm not a Mormon)
This is another topic that can cause great debate, not only within the church, but outside of it as well. Well, to be strait forward and honest in this, there is no scriptures or laws that prohibit a man from having more than one wife except for those who hold a leadership position in the church (for this can be a distraction to his ministry - 1 Timothy 3:2). Now this being said, I don’t believe that we men should all rush out and start looking for another wife to add to the one we have, for we must first determine our role and position in the church. For God may be calling you to be part of a leadership position in a church, or He wants to send you out into the mission field. And again, we know from scripture that those who are called into the ministry, can't have more than one wife because he would be preoccupied trying to please them and thus, his ministry would lack. And let's remember that once you marry a woman, you are bound to her (or them) for the rest of your life. (see God Hates Divorce)

Now for some clarification. Jesus did say if a man divorces his wife and marries another, that he would be committing adultery (which is dishonoring a marriage). But one must remember that adultery is not that act of adding a wife to the one you already have, but it’s getting rid of the wife you don't want and replacing her for another. So, in a nutshell, adultery is the act of being unfaithful and showing dishonor to the woman whom you’ve vowed to keep and take care of. Its kind a like trading her in for a new model. What an insult this would be. But on the other hand, adding a wife to the one you already have isn't an act of adultery because there's no divorce involved. Again, don't take my word for it but do you own studying on this. And watch out for those who try to appease others by scripture twisting. The truth is the truth.

Adultery is “dishonoring a marriage” ether by: (a) a man dumping his wife for another (b) a woman dumping her husband for another (c) a man having sex with another man’s wife. But Jesus never says that a man is “dishonoring a marriage” by adding a second wife to his marriage. It was practiced in the Old Testament without any indications of it being a sin. However, we find in the New Testament only one prohibition to having more than one wife and that would be for the Elders and Overseers of the Church. For we are told that they are to be the husband of one wife to avoid being over distracted from their duties: A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, temperate, sober-minded, of good behavior, hospitable, able to teach; (1 Timothy 3:2 NKJV), For this reason I left you in Crete, that you should set in order the things that are lacking, and appoint elders in every city as I commanded you-- if a man is blameless, the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of dissipation or insubordination. (Titus 1:5-6 NKJV) 

WHAT'S GOOD FOR THE GOOSE IS NOT GOOD FOR THE GANDER
There may be those women who say that this is unfair, and why can’t we women have more than one husband also? What's good for the goose should be good for the gander also, right? Well one must consider the facts. If a man has three wives and they all conceive by him, you can be sure who the father is and who the mother is. On the contrary, if a woman has three men and they all lay with her during the month and she conceives, who’s the father? In this kind of situation, you can only have confusion and even contention. It would not be good for the woman or the men involved (or even the child). Also, on a more medical note, when a woman has multiple male partners, it confuses her body on recognizing who to conceive from. This could cause problems such as miscarriages and even venereal disease. God designed a woman to have only one male partner. This way there would be no confusion on who the child belongs two.


I do know however, if one desires to be in the ministry, he needs to be married to only one wife. Also, there were great men such as Isaac, Noah and Moses who all had only one wife. So again, I’m not encouraging men everywhere to start adding wives to their marriage, but I’m simply stating the facts of God’s scriptures which does not condemn a man if he chooses to (in case he does want to add to the one he has).

Scriptural Commentary:

  • Very early on men took to themselves more than one wife: Then Lamech took two wives for himself: the name of one was Adah, and the name of the second was Zillah. (Genesis 4:19 Sept.)
  • Jacob was a man of God who had two wives who were sisters. This of course was before the law that said a man is not to take two sisters as wives. And he arose that night and took his two wives, his two maidservants, and his eleven sons, and crossed over the ford of Jabbok. (Genesis 32:22 Sept.)
  • This is an actual law of God which is designed to protect the first wife’s rights of marriage when a man takes a second wife: If he betrothed her to his son, he shall deal with her according to the right of daughters. But if he takes another wife, he shall not deprive her of necessities, clothing, and marriage rights. (Exodus 21:9-10 Sept.)
  • Even though this is a sad case for the one woman, it shows that God allowed a man to have more than one wife, even having a law to protect the rights of the one who was hated: "Now if a man is married to two wives, one loved and the other hated, and they have borne him children, both the loved and the hated, and the firstborn son is of her who is hated, then it shall be, on the day he bequeaths his possessions to his sons, he must not bestow firstborn status on the son of the loved wife in preference to the son of the unloved, the true firstborn. But he shall acknowledge the son of the unloved wife as the firstborn by giving him a double portion of all he has, for he is the beginning of his strength; the right of the firstborn is his. (Deuteronomy 21:15-17 Sept.)
  • This man Elkanah was a worshiper of God who had two wives: He had two wives. The name of one was Hannah, and the name of the other was Peninnah. Peninnah had children, but Hannah none. (1 Kingdoms 1:2 Sept.)
  • David had two wives even though he was a king, and yet God never condemned him for it: “And David settled in Gath with Achish, he and his men, each with his family, and David with both wives, Ahinoam the Jezreelite woman and Abigail the widow of Nabal, the Carmelite. (1 Kingdoms 27:3 Sept.). Please note that Nabal died and then David took Abigail for his wife
  • Even though a wife may leave for one reason or another (a separation, not a divorce), she is still to remain unmarried. And if she wants to be joined to a man, she has to return to back to her husband. Divorce is out of the question for a woman: Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife. (1 Corinthians 7:10-11)
  • God hates divorce in general: “And you do these things which I hate. You cover the altar of the Lord with tears, with weeping and moaning because of troubles, yet still thinking it is worthy to look upon your sacrifice or take it as acceptable from your hands. And you say, “Why?” Because the Lord has been witness between you and the wife of your youth, whom you have forsaken; yet she is your companion and the wife of your covenant. (Malachi 2:13-14 Sept.)
  • The only excuse a man has for a divorce is if his wife lies with another man: “And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.” (Matthew 19:9)


CLOSING COMMENTS
So, in conclusion to all this I would have to say, Yes, Christians are to Richly Enjoy Sex regardless of what situation they may be in. For it's true that there are those who have difficulty (such as those with erectile dis-function) or even those who are not able to have children for one reason or another. But this shouldn't keep them from enjoying sex even when vaginal intercourse is difficult or even imposable (thank God for oral sex). Of course, they would have to get creative in their quest to sexually gratify each other or to have children, but in all they can still reap the health benefits that come from the sexual act as mentioned earlier, even if children is out of the equation (however, let's not forget that God is the God of miracles). For God's word tell us to enjoy it, and do not deprive each other of it.


Whether your still skeptical about any of this or not, always seek God in prayer first. Let's not make the mistake of seeking advice from friends, Pastors or even me without praying about it first. The best answers always come when we first seek God with all our heart concerning an issue. For when we do so, he will lead us in the path we should go. For I can tell you that I did, and he lead me in creating this article. So, let's never forget what Proverbs says: Trust in God with all your heart, And do not exalt your own wisdom. In all your ways know wisdom, That she may cut a straight path for you; And your foot will not stumble - Proverbs 3:5-6 Sept.) And this is my advice for you in all things.


A few scriptures from the bible that speak on sexual love:


  • Here we have the wife kneeling and sitting down in her husbands shadow and performing oral sex upon him, recognizing the benefits of receiving her husband’s semen orally, even comparing his semen to a sweet healthy apple: As the apple among the trees of the woods, So is my beloved among the sons. I desired to be in his shadow and to sit down; And his fruit was sweet in my mouth. (Song of Songs 2:3 Sept.)
  • Here we have the wife inviting her husband to dine upon her sexually: Awake, O north wind, And come, O south wind; Blow through my garden And let my spices flow out. Let my beloved come to his garden And eat of its fruits. (Song of Songs 4:16 Sept.)
  • Here we have a picture of the man lying on his left side next to his wife with his left hand under her head and his right hand is embracing her (an act of stimulating her vagina): His left hand shall be under my head, And his right hand shall embrace me (Song of Songs 2:6).
  • Next, we have God teaching and leading us by His presence in us which in turn brings us much joy indeed. Also, He brings us much pleasure by giving us the pleasures of life, which even bring forth new life (children). You made known to me the ways of life; You will fill me with gladness in Your presence; At Your right hand are pleasures forevermore. (Psalm 16:11 Sept.)​ Also, this is a beautiful metaphor of the church, the Bride of Christ, being lead by her Beloved Jesus Christ into an intimate relationship.
  • Here in this scripture, we have the wife inviting her husband to perform oral Pleasure on her, which of course would lead to vaginal intercourse: Awake, O north wind, And come, O south wind; Blow through my garden And let my spices flow out. Let my beloved come to his garden And eat of its fruits. (Song of Songs 4:16 Sept.)
  • Here, we have the man "going up the palm tree" which is in reference to him starting with oral sex upon his wife and working his way up to her breast and then laying hold of her and ending in intense lovemaking: This greatness of yours is like the palm tree, And your breasts like a cluster of grapes. I said, “I will climb up the palm tree, And grasp hold of its high branches.” Indeed your breasts shall be like clusters of the vine, And the fragrance of your nose like apples, And your mouth like a good wine That goes down smoothly for my beloved, Fit for my lips and teeth. (Song of Songs 7:8-10 Sept.)
  • Here we have a reference to the man's "fountains" which of course is referring to his wives. Also, the man and the wife are to "rejoice" in their sexual lovemaking together, with the man being satisfied with her breast and not with another man's wife: ​Drink waters from your vessels And from the fountains of your spring. Do not let the waters from your fountain be spilled by you, But let your waters pass through your wide places; Let them be only for you, And let no stranger partake with you; Let the fountain of your water be for you alone, And rejoice together with the wife of your youth. Let your loving deer and graceful colt keep company with you, And let her alone go before you and be with you at all times; For in living with her love, you will be great. (Proverbs 5:15-19 Sept.)
  • Here we have Paul’s advice not to deprive each other of sexual pleasure. This of course would help discourage the act of adultery: Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. (1 Corinthians 7:5)​
  • Ruth, who being instructed by her mother-in-law, was told to uncover the feet (an act to show she was willing to perform oral sex) of the man who was to take her dead husbands place. This was (and still is) an acceptable act to show that a woman is both ready to give herself as well as accepting a man as her husband. It's the most intimate way to say "I Do" to the one she is to spend her life with:And Boaz ate, and his heart was cheerful. He went to lie down at the end of the heap of grain, and she came softly and uncovered his feet. Now it happened at midnight that the man was startled and disturbed; for there was a woman lying at his feet. And he said, “Who are you?” So she answered, “I am Ruth, your maidservant. Take your maidservant under your wing, for you are a close relative. (Ruth 3:7-9 Sept.)​

 

BELOW ARE SOME COMMENTS FROM WEMEN WHO RECEIVE THEIR HUSBANDS SEMEN ORALLY (SURVEY RESULTS FROM: http://uncoveringintimacy.com

  • It’s all inclusive. It’s a part of him. Why should I deny any one cell of his body when God has intended us to be one in flesh? Additionally, he doesn’t get grossed out when I get wet during oral sex, he embraces it
  • Less of a mess. makes it whole and complete in my mind…sharing something beautiful with my husband
  • I love it! And I know he loves it more!
  • It is exciting for both of us and makes me feel closer to him.
  • Because it works for us
  • ​I love giving him pleasure. And I think I would feel rejected if he did not like giving me oral sex because he did not like my taste. I don’t want him to feel that way.

SAME SURVEY ASKED MEN IF THEY ENJOY GIVING ORAL SEX TO THEIR WIVES AND ALMOST ALL SAID "YES" BUT GAVE NO "WHY" ANWSER. (comment below is from someone I know who was not at the survey)

  • It's a beautiful part of sexual foreplay that helps prepare the wife for vaginal intercourse. I find everything about it to be exciting; including the taste, the smell and the pleasure I can bring to her. It's even scriptural (Song of Songs 4:16)

Trust in God with all your heart, And do not exalt your own wisdom. In all your ways know wisdom, That she may cut a straight path for you; And your foot will not stumble (Proverbs 3:5-6 Sept.)

Here, we have some good Christian websites that support God's word and sheds light on this subject of sex:

http://intimacyinmarriage.com/2014/10/18/3-secrets-to-amazing-oral-sex/

http://intimacyinmarriage.com/2015/03/07/how-to-give-great-oral-sex-to-your-husband/
http://forgivenwife.com/because-hes-worth-it/#comment-31635
http://hotholyhumorous.com/tag/fellatio/

http://www.the-generous-husband.com/2012/07/14/oral-sex-survey-says/

http://marriedchristiansex.com/blog/physical-techniques/yes-you-should-swallow/
http://www.new-life.net/growth/marriage/sexual-allusions-and-symbols-in-the-song-of-songs/

https://biblicalgenderroles.com/2014/06/22/the-10-actions-of-the-sexually-intelligent-wife-2/

Also, there is a book out that I do recommend by Mark Driscoll call "Real Marriage."


Here we have a few none Christian websites that support the truth of the benefits of semen for women

http://www.news-medical.net/health/Swallowing-Semen.aspx

http://www.nbcnews.com/id/5263250/ns/health-sexual_health/t/not-just-good-good-you/#.WNxv8FKZMdU

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As the apple among the trees of the woods, So is my beloved among the sons. I desired to be in his shadow and to sit down; And his fruit was sweet in my mouth. (Song of Songs 2:3 Sept.)​

Article Notes:

 

  • This negative view was rooted in the ancient church and based on the writings of such notables as Tertullian, Ambrose, and Jerome, all of whom believed that, even within marriage, intercourse necessarily involved sin. This attitude toward marital intimacy, which dominated the church for more than ten centuries, inevitably led to the glorification of virginity and celibacy. By the fifth century, clerics were prohibited from marrying. Two classes of Christians emerged: the “religious” (i.e., the spiritual clergy), which included monks and nuns who vowed to abstain from all sexual activity, and the “profane” (i.e., the secular laity), who, being unable to rise to the noble heights of virginity or celibacy, were conceded the right to marry.
  • Puritan preachers taught that the Roman Catholic view was unbiblical, even satanic. They cited Paul, who said that the prohibition of marriage is a doctrine of devils (1 Tim. 4:1–3). Even the Puritan definitions of marriage implied the conjugal act. For example, Perkins defines marriage as “the lawful conjunction of the two married persons; that is, of one man and one woman into one flesh.” In contrast with Desiderius Erasmus, who taught that ideal marriage abstained from sexual intercourse, Cotton said in a wedding sermon that those who call for marital abstinence follow the dictates of a blind mind and not those of the Holy Spirit, who says that it is not good that man should be alone.
  • The Puritans viewed sex within marriage as a gift of God and as an essential, enjoyable part of marriage. Gouge says that husbands and wives should cohabit “with good will and delight, willingly, readily, and cheerfully.” “They do err,” adds Perkins, “who hold that the secret coming together of man and wife cannot be without sin unless it be done for the procreation of children.”
  • Perkins goes on to say that marital sex is a “due debt” or “due benevolence” (1 Cor. 7:3) that a couple owes to one another. That must be shown, he says, “with a singular and entire affection one towards another” in three ways: “First, by the right and lawful use of their bodies or of the marriage bed.” Such physical intimacy by “holy usage” should be “a holy and undefiled action (Heb. 13:4)… sanctified by the word and prayer (1 Tim. 4:3–4).” The fruits of God-honoring, enjoyable sex in marriage are the blessing of children, “the preservation of the body in cleanness,” and the reflection of marriage as a type of the Christ-church relationship.

http://www.ligonier.org/blog/sex-in-marriage/

 

Article References:

  • ​Command those who are rich in this present age not to be haughty, nor to trust in uncertain riches but in the living God, who gives us richly all things to enjoy. (1 Timothy 6:17)
  • Now the Spirit expressly says that in latter times some will depart from the faith, giving heed to deceiving spirits and doctrines of demons, speaking lies in hypocrisy, having their own conscience seared with a hot iron, forbidding to marry, and commanding to abstain from foods which God created to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe and know the truth. (1 Timothy 4:1-3)
  • Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge. (Hebrews 13:4)
  • Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my paths. (Psalm 118:105 Sept.)
  • What has been is what will be, and what has been done is what will be done. There is nothing new under the sun. Who will speak and say, “See, this is new”? For it has already been in the ages that have passed before us. (Ecclesiastes 1:9-10 Sept.)
  • Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. (1 Corinthians 7:5)
  • There shall be no female prostitute among the daughters of Israel, or a male prostitute among the sons of Israel; there shall be no female temple prostitute among the daughters of Israel, and there shall be no male temple prostitute among the sons of Israel. (Deuteronomy 23:18 Sept.)
  • Behold, children are the Lord’s inheritance; The fruit of the womb His reward. (Psalm 126:3 Sept.)
  • If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed. (John 8:36)
  • Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others. (Philippians 2:4
  • For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God; that no one should take advantage of and defraud his brother in this matter, because the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also forewarned you and testified. (1 Thessalonians 4:3-6)
  • But she who lives in pleasure is dead while she lives. (1 Timothy 5:6)
  • I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. (Galatians 5:16)
  • Be diligent to present yourself approved to God, a worker who does not need to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth. (2 Timothy 2:15)
  • But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves. (James 1:22)

Awake, O north wind, And come, O south wind; Blow through my garden And let my spices flow out. Let my beloved come to his garden And eat of its fruits. (Song of Songs 4:16 Sept.)


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