Encourage One Another in Prayer and Worship

Glorifying God through Prayer and Worship

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Living a Life that totally Glorifies God

A Man and Woman's Role in Life

​​Man and the Woman before the fall
God’s “Very Good” creation of man and woman
Then God said, “Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness. Let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of heaven, over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that moves on the earth.” So God made man; in the image of God He made him; male and female He made them. Then God blessed them; and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of heaven, and over every living thing that moves on the earth. (Genesis 1:26-28, 31 Sept.)

From the creation account above, I do believe that before the fall, there was a natural unity and harmony between the man and the woman, each one knowing his and her place in life instinctively. There in the garden, we can see from scripture that man was a vegetarian and that he had vegetables and fruit trees that were pleasant to the sight as well as good for food. Here, there was harmony between the man and his wife as well as with the animals. But most of all, it was that beautiful relationship that man had with God, being not yet tainted by sin.


Man and Woman after the Fall
And He shall rule over Thee
To the woman He said, “I will greatly multiply your pain and your groaning, and in pain you shall bring forth children. Your recourse will be to your husband, and he shall rule over you. (Genesis 3:16 Sept.) 

Now for starters I would like to be clear on one thing and that would be this; that the man IS NOT better than or more superior to the woman, nor is she his personal slave. She is his companion and an important part of his life. For God's word says in Genesis that both the man and the woman are made in the image of God, which shows that she is not a lesser being than the man. We are all one in Christ Jesus and just as important to Him. The only difference would be our God given earthly roles that He bestowed upon us. We can see this in nature itself by observing that the males are generally larger and stronger than the females. This would naturally place the males in a place of dominance and rule over the female but again not in any way inferring that one is better than the other.


Now because of the fall of mankind and sin now entering into the world, things started to change for the worse on the earth. Therefor God felt it necessary to make it very clear to the woman that man is to have rule over her and she is to be in subjection unto him. Now let us not believe that before the fall there was no male dominance over the female. For we can mistakenly come to this conclusion by believing that since this scripture mentioned above came about after the fall, it must have been because of the fall. But God’s Word clearly states otherwise. For Paul in his first letter to Timothy says that the woman is not to “usurp authority over the man” because “Adam was first formed, then Eve.” Also, we have Paul’s first letter to the Corinthians stating that man was not created for the woman, but the woman for the man, thus showing that from the very beginning (before the fall) God had created the man to be head over the woman.

We must be diligent to stand on the truth of God’s Word and not try to water it down with our own theology. It seems there’s that urge in us to try to twist or bend His Word in such a way that it would be appealing to all. And is it not true that we do this because we are so afraid of offending someone? And it is no wonder why we have such disorder in the church today as well as in our homes? It’s time we stand up for the truth of God’s Word and take our rightful places in life (both the man and the woman). For by doing anything otherwise, we would be guilty of thwarting a divine commandment.

  • (a) Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. (Colossians 3:18 NKJV) (b) But I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God. (1 Corinthians 11:3 NKJV) (c) Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. (Ephesians 5:22-24 NKJV) (d) Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. (1 Peter 3:1-2 NKJV)
  • But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve. (1 Timothy 2:12-13) 
  • For man is not from woman, but woman from man. Nor was man created for the woman, but woman for the man. (1 Corinthians 11:8-9 NKJV)
  • So God made man; in the image of God He made him; male and female He made them. (Genesis 1:27 Sept.)
  • There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus. (Galatians 3:28)
  • "He who has My commandments and keeps them, it is he who loves Me. And he who loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I will love him and manifest Myself to him." (John 14:21 NKJV)

Key notes:

  • husbands must love their wives
  • the husband is head of the wife
  • a man and woman's place in life


​Reference from commentators:

  • If man had not sinned, he would always have ruled with wisdom and love; and, if the woman had not sinned, she would always have obeyed with humility and meekness; and then the dominion would have been no grievance: but our own sin and folly make our yoke heavy. If Eve had not eaten forbidden fruit herself, and tempted her husband to eat it, she would never have complained of her subjection; therefore it ought never to be complained of, though harsh; but sin must be complained of, that made it so. Those wives who not only despise and disobey their husbands, but domineer over them, do not consider that they not only violate a divine law, but thwart a divine sentence. - Matthew Henry 



Giving Honor unto the Wife
And you do these things which I hate. You cover the altar of the Lord with tears, with weeping and moaning because of troubles, yet still thinking it is worthy to look upon your sacrifice or take it as acceptable from your hands. And you say, “Why?” Because the Lord has been witness between you and the wife of your youth, whom you have forsaken; yet she is your companion and the wife of your covenant. But did He not make another, having a remnant of His Spirit? Yet you ask, “What else does God seek but offspring?” But take heed to your spirit, and do not forsake the wife of your youth. “But if you hate her and send her away,” says the Lord God of Israel, “ungodliness will obscure your thinking,” says the Lord Almighty. “So take heed to your spirit, that you do not forsake her. (Malachi 2:13-16 Sept.)

It is obvious from scripture that the man is to show respect and honor to his wife. Just because the man has a God given authority over his wife does not mean that she is to be looked down upon or to be treated as inferior. Does not scripture say that the man is to love his wife’s as his own body? A wife is a blessing to the husband and an important part of his life. In fact, in Proverbs 31:10-31 it says that a virtuous woman is prized far above rubies and is a blessing to her husband. So, why does one divorce his wife and marry another, treating her like an object that can be traded in for another. She is a person that is precious and just as important in the eyes of God as any man. For we can see from the scripture quoted above in Malachi as well as the one below from (5)Matthew’s gospel, that God hates divorce.


  • Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered. (1 Peter 3:7 NKJV)
  • And you do these things which I hate. You cover the altar of the Lord with tears, with weeping and moaning because of troubles, yet still thinking it is worthy to look upon your sacrifice or take it as acceptable from your hands. And you say, “Why?” Because the Lord has been witness between you and the wife of your youth, whom you have forsaken; yet she is your companion and the wife of your covenant. (Malachi 2:13-14 Sept.)
  • Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, ... So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. (Ephesians 5:25, 28-29 NKJV))
  • He who finds a good wife finds benefits and receives cheerfulness from God. (Proverbs 18:22 Sept.)
  • "But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery. (Matthew 5:32 NKJV)


The Man's Place in Life                                                                                                                                    
But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel. (1 Timothy 5:8)

According to the passage above, a man is to be the provider for his household. He is to work and do all he can to provide food on the table for his family and clothing on their backs. For God’s word condemns laziness and anyone who is a slacker. In fact, according to the bible passage quoted above, God says that such a man is worse than an unbeliever. Now that’s pretty bad. Now let it be said, I don’t believe this is condemning those men who are struggling to make ends meet. For sometimes things happen that can put people into predicaments that are out of their control. But in all things, God will meet their needs and see them through if they trust Him and put their hope in Him. So, let all of us who are men do our best by loving our wife’s according to scripture and help train our children in the way they should go (see Train up a Child). This would include teaching them the truth of God’s word and not to be harsh with them or harass them to anger.

  • And my God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus. (Philippians 4:19 NKJV)
  • And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord. (Ephesians 6:4 NKJV)



The Woman's Place in Life
the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things-- that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, [to be] discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed. (Titus 2:3-5 NKJV)

According the scripture above, women should be passing on to the next generation the important role of being keepers of the home. However, we see the opposite happening. For young women are being shipped off to pursue a degree in some collage so that they can have a career outside the home which is not consistent with God’s word. Also, mothers are sending off their young children to strangers in some day care so that they can pursue a career as well instead of staying home and raising them as they should. Is this not wrong? Should they not rather be teaching and instilling Godly values to their own children instead of letting someone else teach them who knows what? Even the Military as well as the police force has open its doors to woman which goes against nature. For woman are to bring life into the world, not to take it out. Unfortunately, this is all part of the fall of mankind where women feel they need to venture outside of the home in order to be recognized as being important or even equal to men. But the truth of it all is, a woman's role in the home is just as vital, if not even more important than any job outside of it. For she has the God given role to "train a child in the way they should go" which molds and shapes that child's future. What job can be more important than that? 


Now, I'm is not saying that all women have to be chained to the house because there are those exception to this rule. For there are single women as well as wives with no little ones that can be involved in the workforce outside the home. There are also those women who even started their own business doing crafts as well as opening shops which become a great blessing not only to their family, but to their community as well. And what's even better is the fact that these family own businesses allow for children to get involved, teaching them from a very early age how to be fruitful and productive in life. But again, these businesses should not get in the way of her most important calling. For a mother and wife's first priority is always to be there for her children as well as for her husband. This is not a commandment from me, but from God himself. This is all consistent with God's word as we can see from the book of Proverbs below. Of course, there are also those women who are single or don't have any children who are pursuing a career such as nursing or some other job which would be a blessing to her community. This is acceptable because she can still be there for her husband and not have to worry about neglecting any children. However, when children do come into the picture, she needs to be ready to give up her career to pursue her most important role, and that would be raising her children.


The Virtuous Woman 

Who will find a courageous wife? For such a one is more valuable than precious stones. The heart of her husband trusts in her; She will not be at a loss for fine spoils, For she provides good things for her husband all her life. She weaves wool and linen cloth and is productive with her hands. She is like a ship trading afar off, So she procures her livelihood. She also rises before dawn and gives food to her household, and appoints tasks for her maidservants. Seeing a farm, she buys it, and from the fruits of her hands she plants her plot of land. Strongly girding her loins, she strengthens her arms for work. She experiences work as a good thing, “And her lamp is not quenched all night. She extends her arms to do profitable things, and she applies her hands to the spindle. She opens her hands to the poor and reaches out with her fruit to the needy. Her husband is not anxious about those at home when he spends a long time elsewhere, for all her household are clothed. She makes a double upper garment for her husband and garments of fine linen and purple for herself. Her husband is respected at the gates and when he sits in council with the elders who inhabit the land. She makes and sells fine linens and girdles to the Canaanites. She opens her mouth carefully and lawfully and controls her tongue. She clothes herself with strength and dignity and rejoices in the last days. she runs her household carefully, and she does not eat the bread of idleness. She opens her mouth wisely and lawfully, and her charity raises her children, and they become rich, and her husband praises her, many daughters acquire riches; many do mighty things, but you excel and surpass all. Desires to please are deceitful, and the beauty of a wife is vain; for a wise wife is blessed, and let her in fear praise the Lord. Give to her from the fruits of her hands, and let her husband praise her at the gates. (Proverbs 31:10-30 Sept.)

Now, for all you parents who are sending your daughters away from the protection and comfort of the home into college campuses and dorms. You might as well be throwing them into a shark tank and tell them: "sink or swim honey, and oh by the way, remember to watch out for the sharks." Isn't this true? For there is a world out there (mainly consisting of men) which has other interests in mind for your daughters, and believe me, it's not for their good. For there are night clubs, parties and all sorts of guys they can hang out and get in trouble with. Is that really something you want for your daughters? Don't get caught up in this corrupt system that says you need a degree to make it in this life, because it's a demonic lie. The truth of the matter is, life has gone on just fine without a degree in the past, and this for both men and women. So, my advice to you parents; keep your daughters at home until they’re ready for marriage. They can always help out around the house and find extra work in the local businesses while they’re still single. It's all for their good. Amen

Know having said all this, I realize that our current world system (at least here in America) has made it hard for a couple to make it financially with only one person working outside of the home. Unfortunately, we have brought this upon ourselves because of greed. A get rich and retire early mentality can bring a nation to ruin. So, we cannot put all the blame on the woman for what’s going on, for the man is at fault here also. Oh, wouldn't be nice, if all woman were as the Provers 31 woman and men as the Ephesians 5 husband.


  • Therefore, you shall lay up these words of mine in your heart and in your soul, and bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be immovable before your eyes. You shall teach them to your children, speaking of them when you sit in your house and walk by the way, when you lie down and rise up. (Deuteronomy 11:18-19 Sept.)


Leaders in the Church
Let a woman learn in silence with all submission. And I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man, but to be in silence. For Adam was formed first, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived, fell into transgression. (1 Timothy 2:11-14 NKJV)

It is very clear from the scriptures, both in the Old Testament as well as the New, that the leadership positions in the church are to be held only by men and never by a woman. If we look at the Old Testament we can see that all the priestly positions were never held by a woman. Likewise, if we look at the New Testament Church, we can see that all twelve of the apostles were held only by men. Wouldn’t it make sense if Jesus wanted to have women in leadership positions in the New Testament church, he would have at least chose one woman (perhaps maybe Mary Magdalen) to be one of His apostles. But it is so clear from Paul’s letters that no woman is to take on any form of leadership within the church assembly. However, the scriptures do teach that women can take part within the church as prophets and as deacons. Now it must be understood that this word deacon does not mean a church leader or teacher but one who serves in the church, whether they are man or a woman. We can see this to be true from Acts chapter 6 where it talks about Stephen who was appointed as a deacon in the church to serve tables (see: Acts 6:3 and 1 Timothy 3:8-13).

Now I know that some of you may be thinking about Deborah, who was a Judge and a prophet in Israel. While it is true that she was holding these two positions, this still would not qualify her to take on a role as a priest or a religious teacher. Prophets speak as God gives them utterance and Judges administer justice. But that does not give them license to take on roles that’s not given to them. We can see this to be true where a woman was never given the role of a Priest or an apostle, but only men. We must remember that even King Saul, who was an anointed King in Israel, got into trouble for taking on the duties of a Priest.


(Key notes of this article: husbands must love their wives, the husband is the head of the wife, and a man and woman's role in life.)

  • (a) And I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man, but to be in silence. For Adam was formed first, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived, fell into transgression. (1 Timothy 2:12-14 NKJV) (b) See Article below by James R. Beck on this matter – Woman pastors/teachers?
  • “Now take Aaron your brother, and his sons with him, from among the children of Israel, that Aaron, Nadab, Abihu, Eleazar, and Ithamar may minister to Me.” (Exodus 28:1 Sept.)
  • And when it was day, He called His disciples to Himself; and from them He chose twelve whom He also named apostles: Simon, whom He also named Peter, and Andrew his brother; James and John; Philip and Bartholomew; Matthew and Thomas; James the son of Alphaeus, and Simon called the Zealot; Judas the son of James, and Judas Iscariot who also became a traitor. (Luke 6:13-16 NKJV)
  • Let your women keep silent in the churches, for they are not permitted to speak; but [they are] to be submissive, as the law also says. And if they want to learn something, let them ask their own husbands at home; for it is shameful for women to speak in church. (1 Corinthians 14:34-35 NKJV)
  • 'And it shall come to pass in the last days, says God, That I will pour out of My Spirit on all flesh; Your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, Your young men shall see visions, Your old men shall dream dreams. And on My menservants and on My maidservants I will pour out My Spirit in those days; And they shall prophesy. (Acts 2:17-18 NKJV) 
  • I commend to you Phoebe our sister, who is a servant of the church in Cenchrea, that you may receive her in the Lord in a manner worthy of the saints, and assist her in whatever business she has need of you; for indeed she has been a helper of many and of myself also. (Romans 16:1-2 NKJV)
  • "But he who is greatest among you shall be your servant. (Matthew 23:11 NKJV)
  • Now Deborah, a prophetess, the wife of Lapidoth, was judge of Israel at that time. 5And Deborah would sit under the palm tree between Ramah and Bethel on Mount Ephraim. (Judges 4:4-5 Sept.)
  • For every high priest taken from among men is appointed for men in things pertaining to God, that he may offer both gifts and sacrifices for sins. He can have compassion on those who are ignorant and going astray, since he himself is also subject to weakness. Because of this he is required as for the people, so also for himself, to offer sacrifices for sins. And no man takes this honor to himself, but he who is called by God, just as Aaron was. (Hebrews 5:1-4 NKJV)
  • Then Samuel said, “What have you done?” And Saul said, “When I saw the people scatter from me, and you did not come within the days of testimony as you arranged, and the Philistines gathered at Michmash, then I said, ‘The Philistines will now come down against me at Gilgal, and I have not prayed in the presence of the Lord.’ Therefore I forced myself, and I offered a burnt offering.” And Samuel said to Saul, “You have rendered it vain because you did not keep my commandments which the Lord commanded you. For now the Lord would have established your kingdom over Israel forever. But now your kingdom shall not stand. (1 Samuel 13:10-13 Sept.)


Reference commentary:

  • And I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man, but to be in silence. For Adam was formed first, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived, fell into transgression. (1 Timothy 2:12-14 NKJV). God, through the apostle Paul, restricts women from serving in roles of teaching and/or having spiritual authority over men. This precludes women from serving as pastors over men, which definitely includes preaching to them, teaching them publicly, and exercising spiritual authority over them.......Did Priscilla and her husband teach the gospel of Jesus Christ to Apollos? Yes, in their home they “explained to him the way of God more adequately” (Acts 18:26). Does the Bible ever say that Priscilla pastored a church or taught publicly or became the spiritual leader of a congregation of saints? No. As far as we know, Priscilla was not involved in ministry activity in contradiction to (1 Timothy 2:11–14).
  • In Romans 16:1, Phoebe is called a “deacon” (or “servant”) in the church and is highly commended by Paul. But, as with Priscilla, there is nothing in Scripture to indicate that Phoebe was a pastor or a teacher of men in the church. “Able to teach” is given as a qualification for elders, but not for deacons (1 Timothy 3:1–13; Titus 1:6–9). 
  • The structure of 1 Timothy 2:11–14 makes the reason why women cannot be pastors perfectly clear. Verse 13 begins with “for,” giving the “cause” of Paul’s statement in verses 11–12. Why should women not teach or have authority over men? Because “Adam was created first, then Eve. And Adam was not the one deceived; it was the woman who was deceived” (verses 13–14). God created Adam first and then created Eve to be a “helper” for Adam. The order of creation has universal application in the family (Ephesians 5:22–33) and in the church. 
  • Many women excel in gifts of hospitality, mercy, teaching, evangelism, and helps. Much of the ministry of the local church depends on women. Women in the church are not restricted from public praying or prophesying (1 Corinthians 11:5), only from having spiritual teaching authority over men. The Bible nowhere restricts women from exercising the gifts of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 12). Women, just as much as men, are called to minister to others, to demonstrate the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22–23), and to proclaim the gospel to the lost (Matthew 28:18–20; Acts 1:8; 1 Peter 3:15).
  • God has ordained that only men are to serve in positions of spiritual teaching authority in the church…… Men are to set the example in spiritual leadership—in their lives and through their words. Women are to take a less authoritative role. Women are encouraged to teach other women (Titus 2:3–5). The Bible also does not restrict women from teaching children. The only activity women are restricted from is teaching or having spiritual authority over men. This precludes women from serving as pastors to men. This does not make women less important, by any means, but rather gives them a ministry focus more in agreement with God’s plan and His gifting of them. - Two Views on Women in Ministry, Revised by James R. Beck, ed. and Logos Bible Software. (Gotquestions.org)

Pray that all would embrace their place

Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, (Ephesians 5:24-25 NKJV)