Man and the Woman before the fall
God’s “Very Good” creation of man and woman
Then God said, “Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness. Let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of heaven, over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that moves on the earth.” So God made man; in the image of God He made him; male and female He made them. Then God blessed them; and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of heaven, and over every living thing that moves on the earth. (Genesis 1:26-28, 31 Sept.)
From the creation account above, I do believe that before the fall, there was a natural unity and harmony between the man and the woman, each one knowing his and her place in life instinctively. There in the garden, we can see from scripture that man was a vegetarian and that he had vegetables and fruit trees that were pleasant to the sight as well as good for food. Here, there was harmony between the man and his wife as well as with the animals. But most of all, it was that beautiful relationship that man had with God, being not yet tainted by sin.
Man and Woman after the Fall
And He shall rule over Thee
To the woman He said, “I will greatly multiply your pain and your groaning, and in pain you shall bring forth children. Your recourse will be to your husband, and he shall rule over you. (Genesis 3:16 Sept.)
Now for starters I would like to be clear on one thing and that would be this; that the man IS NOT better than or more superior to the woman, nor is she his personal slave. She is his companion and an important part of his life. For God's word says in Genesis that both the man and the woman are made in the image of God, which shows that she is not a lesser being than the man. We are all one in Christ Jesus and just as important to Him. The only difference would be our God given earthly roles that He bestowed upon us. We can see this in nature itself by observing that the males are generally larger and stronger than the females. This would naturally place the males in a place of dominance and rule over the female but again not in any way inferring that one is better than the other.
Now because of the fall of mankind and sin now entering into the world, things started to change for the worse on the earth. Therefor God felt it necessary to make it very clear to the woman that man is to have rule over her and she is to be in subjection unto him. Now let us not believe that before the fall there was no male dominance over the female. For we can mistakenly come to this conclusion by believing that since this scripture mentioned above came about after the fall, it must have been because of the fall. But God’s Word clearly states otherwise. For Paul in his first letter to Timothy says that the woman is not to “usurp authority over the man” because “Adam was first formed, then Eve.” Also, we have Paul’s first letter to the Corinthians stating that man was not created for the woman, but the woman for the man, thus showing that from the very beginning (before the fall) God had created the man to be head over the woman.
We must be diligent to stand on the truth of God’s Word and not try to water it down with our own theology. It seems there’s that urge in us to try to twist or bend His Word in such a way that it would be appealing to all. And is it not true that we do this because we are so afraid of offending someone? And it is no wonder why we have such disorder in the church today as well as in our homes? It’s time we stand up for the truth of God’s Word and take our rightful places in life (both the man and the woman). For by doing anything otherwise, we would be guilty of thwarting a divine commandment.
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Giving Honor unto the Wife
And you do these things which I hate. You cover the altar of the Lord with tears, with weeping and moaning because of troubles, yet still thinking it is worthy to look upon your sacrifice or take it as acceptable from your hands. And you say, “Why?” Because the Lord has been witness between you and the wife of your youth, whom you have forsaken; yet she is your companion and the wife of your covenant. But did He not make another, having a remnant of His Spirit? Yet you ask, “What else does God seek but offspring?” But take heed to your spirit, and do not forsake the wife of your youth. “But if you hate her and send her away,” says the Lord God of Israel, “ungodliness will obscure your thinking,” says the Lord Almighty. “So take heed to your spirit, that you do not forsake her. (Malachi 2:13-16 Sept.)
It is obvious from scripture that the man is to show respect and honor to his wife. Just because the man has a God given authority over his wife does not mean that she is to be looked down upon or to be treated as inferior. Does not scripture say that the man is to love his wife’s as his own body? A wife is a blessing to the husband and an important part of his life. In fact, in Proverbs 31:10-31 it says that a virtuous woman is prized far above rubies and is a blessing to her husband. So, why does one divorce his wife and marry another, treating her like an object that can be traded in for another. She is a person that is precious and just as important in the eyes of God as any man. For we can see from the scripture quoted above in Malachi as well as the one below from (5)Matthew’s gospel, that God hates divorce.
The Man's Place in Life
But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel. (1 Timothy 5:8)
According to the passage above, a man is to be the provider for his household. He is to work and do all he can to provide food on the table for his family and clothing on their backs. For God’s word condemns laziness and anyone who is a slacker. In fact, according to the bible passage quoted above, God says that such a man is worse than an unbeliever. Now that’s pretty bad. Now let it be said, I don’t believe this is condemning those men who are struggling to make ends meet. For sometimes things happen that can put people into predicaments that are out of their control. But in all things, God will meet their needs and see them through if they trust Him and put their hope in Him. So, let all of us who are men do our best by loving our wife’s according to scripture and help train our children in the way they should go (see Train up a Child). This would include teaching them the truth of God’s word and not to be harsh with them or harass them to anger.
The Woman's Place in Life
the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things-- that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, [to be] discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed. (Titus 2:3-5 NKJV)
According the scripture above, women should be passing on to the next generation the important role of being keepers of the home. However, we see the opposite happening. For young women are being shipped off to pursue a degree in some collage so that they can have a career outside the home which is not consistent with God’s word. Also, mothers are sending off their young children to strangers in some day care so that they can pursue a career as well instead of staying home and raising them as they should. Is this not wrong? Should they not rather be teaching and instilling Godly values to their own children instead of letting someone else teach them who knows what? Even the Military as well as the police force has open its doors to woman which goes against nature. For woman are to bring life into the world, not to take it out. Unfortunately, this is all part of the fall of mankind where women feel they need to venture outside of the home in order to be recognized as being important or even equal to men. But the truth of it all is, a woman's role in the home is just as vital, if not even more important than any job outside of it. For she has the God given role to "train a child in the way they should go" which molds and shapes that child's future. What job can be more important than that?
Now, I'm is not saying that all women have to be chained to the house because there are those exception to this rule. For there are single women as well as wives with no little ones that can be involved in the workforce outside the home. There are also those women who even started their own business doing crafts as well as opening shops which become a great blessing not only to their family, but to their community as well. And what's even better is the fact that these family own businesses allow for children to get involved, teaching them from a very early age how to be fruitful and productive in life. But again, these businesses should not get in the way of her most important calling. For a mother and wife's first priority is always to be there for her children as well as for her husband. This is not a commandment from me, but from God himself. This is all consistent with God's word as we can see from the book of Proverbs below. Of course, there are also those women who are single or don't have any children who are pursuing a career such as nursing or some other job which would be a blessing to her community. This is acceptable because she can still be there for her husband and not have to worry about neglecting any children. However, when children do come into the picture, she needs to be ready to give up her career to pursue her most important role, and that would be raising her children.
The Virtuous Woman
Who will find a courageous wife? For such a one is more valuable than precious stones. The heart of her husband trusts in her; She will not be at a loss for fine spoils, For she provides good things for her husband all her life. She weaves wool and linen cloth and is productive with her hands. She is like a ship trading afar off, So she procures her livelihood. She also rises before dawn and gives food to her household, and appoints tasks for her maidservants. Seeing a farm, she buys it, and from the fruits of her hands she plants her plot of land. Strongly girding her loins, she strengthens her arms for work. She experiences work as a good thing, “And her lamp is not quenched all night. She extends her arms to do profitable things, and she applies her hands to the spindle. She opens her hands to the poor and reaches out with her fruit to the needy. Her husband is not anxious about those at home when he spends a long time elsewhere, for all her household are clothed. She makes a double upper garment for her husband and garments of fine linen and purple for herself. Her husband is respected at the gates and when he sits in council with the elders who inhabit the land. She makes and sells fine linens and girdles to the Canaanites. She opens her mouth carefully and lawfully and controls her tongue. She clothes herself with strength and dignity and rejoices in the last days. she runs her household carefully, and she does not eat the bread of idleness. She opens her mouth wisely and lawfully, and her charity raises her children, and they become rich, and her husband praises her, many daughters acquire riches; many do mighty things, but you excel and surpass all. Desires to please are deceitful, and the beauty of a wife is vain; for a wise wife is blessed, and let her in fear praise the Lord. Give to her from the fruits of her hands, and let her husband praise her at the gates. (Proverbs 31:10-30 Sept.)
Now, for all you parents who are sending your daughters away from the protection and comfort of the home into college campuses and dorms. You might as well be throwing them into a shark tank and tell them: "sink or swim honey, and oh by the way, remember to watch out for the sharks." Isn't this true? For there is a world out there (mainly consisting of men) which has other interests in mind for your daughters, and believe me, it's not for their good. For there are night clubs, parties and all sorts of guys they can hang out and get in trouble with. Is that really something you want for your daughters? Don't get caught up in this corrupt system that says you need a degree to make it in this life, because it's a demonic lie. The truth of the matter is, life has gone on just fine without a degree in the past, and this for both men and women. So, my advice to you parents; keep your daughters at home until they’re ready for marriage. They can always help out around the house and find extra work in the local businesses while they’re still single. It's all for their good. Amen
Know having said all this, I realize that our current world system (at least here in America) has made it hard for a couple to make it financially with only one person working outside of the home. Unfortunately, we have brought this upon ourselves because of greed. A get rich and retire early mentality can bring a nation to ruin. So, we cannot put all the blame on the woman for what’s going on, for the man is at fault here also. Oh, wouldn't be nice, if all woman were as the Provers 31 woman and men as the Ephesians 5 husband.
Leaders in the Church
Let a woman learn in silence with all submission. And I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man, but to be in silence. For Adam was formed first, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived, fell into transgression. (1 Timothy 2:11-14 NKJV)
It is very clear from the scriptures, both in the Old Testament as well as the New, that the leadership positions in the church are to be held only by men and never by a woman. If we look at the Old Testament we can see that all the priestly positions were never held by a woman. Likewise, if we look at the New Testament Church, we can see that all twelve of the apostles were held only by men. Wouldn’t it make sense if Jesus wanted to have women in leadership positions in the New Testament church, he would have at least chose one woman (perhaps maybe Mary Magdalen) to be one of His apostles. But it is so clear from Paul’s letters that no woman is to take on any form of leadership within the church assembly. However, the scriptures do teach that women can take part within the church as prophets and as deacons. Now it must be understood that this word deacon does not mean a church leader or teacher but one who serves in the church, whether they are man or a woman. We can see this to be true from Acts chapter 6 where it talks about Stephen who was appointed as a deacon in the church to serve tables (see: Acts 6:3 and 1 Timothy 3:8-13).
Now I know that some of you may be thinking about Deborah, who was a Judge and a prophet in Israel. While it is true that she was holding these two positions, this still would not qualify her to take on a role as a priest or a religious teacher. Prophets speak as God gives them utterance and Judges administer justice. But that does not give them license to take on roles that’s not given to them. We can see this to be true where a woman was never given the role of a Priest or an apostle, but only men. We must remember that even King Saul, who was an anointed King in Israel, got into trouble for taking on the duties of a Priest.
(Key notes of this article: husbands must love their wives, the husband is the head of the wife, and a man and woman's role in life.)
Pray that all would embrace their place
Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, (Ephesians 5:24-25 NKJV)
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