Article 1.

Training up a Child

Pray that all will teach them in a Godly way

Richly enjoying what God has given us.
God created sexual intimacy and wants us not only to express our love to one another through it, but to richly enjoy it as well (1 Timothy 6:17). For it’s the sex act between a man and a woman which can bring about the most intense physical pleasure that two people can ever experience. For it’s one of those pleasures of life that even brings forth new life. So, this being the case, doesn't it make sense that God would want us to richly enjoy it?  For God’s word says: “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled” which means marriage is good for everyone and that sexual intimacy is not to be viewed as dirty, defiling or unholy (Hebrews 13:4). And let us remember we ourselves are here because our parents had a sexual encounter as well. And let’s thank God they did.


Now that being said, we must keep in mind that not everybody is at the same level of faith when it comes to sexual intimacy. For some, being more weak in faith may limit themselves to some simple basics, while others faith allows them to totally indulge in a “anything goes” mentality. So that being said, we need to be careful not to put a stumbling block nor a guilt trip on a fellow Christian. What I mean is this; those who limit themselves to the basics, should not condemn those who do otherwise. And in the same way, those who indulge in it should not look down on those who don’t. For we need to take heed to what God’s word says and leave all judgment up to God. For it's before Him that we stand or fall; and according to His word, He will make us stand (Romans 14) So, wherever your faith may allow you to go in your sexual intimacy, you should richly enjoy it and give thanks to God for it.


Me, Me, Me (that shouldn't be)

However, we still need to use caution when it comes to this area of physical intimacy. For it can be so easy to take things out of perspective and focus only on ourselves instead of our mate. For we must not overlook the fact that sexual intimacy is to be an act of giving as well as receiving. For we are to focus on bringing pleasure to our spouse who in turn should want to bring pleasure to us. It can truly be a beautiful act when the couple has this attitude of giving to one another. Because remember, if you live for pleasure you will die, but if you live for God, he will give you all things to enjoy in their proper time and place (1 Timothy 5:6) That’s why we need the Holy Spirit daily to help us put all these things into their proper perspective. His Word tells us to walk after the Spirit so that we can put off the deeds of the flesh. Therefore, let us always read and meditate on his Word and be doers of it. Amen.


God's Word concerning the Human Body and Physical Intimacy?

Have you ever wished you could find a God given manual on marital intimacy that you can trust? Well, look no further because you have it all in your bible. Yes, it's true, and it's in the book of Song of Songs all there for you. In these pages you will not only find a man and his wife commenting on the beauty of each others bodies, but you’ll hear them speak of physical intimacy in a very colorful way. So I encourage every married couple to open it’s pages and ask God to allow His Holy Spirit to bring out it’s beauty and truth. So that being said, below are some snipping of Song of Songs to wet you appetite to dive in to God’s Word. First, we have the husband and wife describing the beauty of each others bodies. Second, we have a colorful description of physical intimacy spoken by the husband and wife.

Physical beauty in Song of Songs:
The Husband

  • My sister, my bride, how beautiful are your breasts. How much more beautiful are your breasts than wine, and the fragrance of your garments than all the spices. (ch. 4:10)
  • Why are your feet beautiful in your sandals, O daughter of Nadab? The curves of your thighs are like small necklaces, the work of a skilled craftsman. Your navel is like an elaborate bowl, not lacking mixed wine. Your stomach is like a heap of wheat set about with lilies. Your two breasts are like two fawns, the twins of a gazelle. (ch. 7:2-4)


The Wife

  • His eyes are like those of doves sitting by pools of water, having eyes bathed in milk and fitly set. His cheeks are like bowls of spices pouring forth perfumes. His lips are lilies dripping choice myrrh. His hands are like elaborate gold set with precious stones. His stomach is like an ivory tablet inlaid with sapphire stones. His legs are like pillars of marble established on golden feet. His appearance is like Lebanon, choice as the cedar trees. His mouth is most sweet and altogether desirable. This is my beloved, my companion, O daughters of Jerusalem! (ch. 5:12-16)


Sexual intimacy in Song of Songs:
The Wife

  • As the apple among the trees of the woods, so is my beloved among the sons. I desired to be in his shadow and to sit down; and his fruit was sweet in my mouth. (ch 2:3)
  • Awake, O north wind, and come, O south wind; Blow through my garden and let my spices flow out. Let my beloved come to his garden and eat of its fruits. (ch. 4:16)
  • His left hand would be under my head, and his right hand would embrace me.(ch. 8:3)


The Husband

  • I came in to my garden, O my sister, my bride; I harvested my myrrh with my spices; I ate my bread with my honey and drank my wine with my milk. (ch. 5:1)
  • How beautiful and how sweet you are, O love, with your delights! This greatness of yours is like the palm tree, and your breasts like a cluster of grapes. I said, “I will climb up the palm tree, and grasp hold of its high branches.” Indeed your breasts shall be like clusters of the vine, And the fragrance of your nose like apples, and your mouth like a good wine that goes down smoothly for my beloved, fit for my lips and teeth. (ch. 7:7-10)


References to Sexual Intimacy in other Scriptures:

  • Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice with the wife of your youth. As a loving deer and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; And always be enraptured with her love. (Proverbs 5:18-19)
  • Then, when he lies down, take notice of the place where he lies. Then you shall go in, uncover his feet, and lie down; and he will tell you what you should do.” And Ruth said to her, “I will do everything you say.” So she went down to the threshing floor and did according to all her mother-in-law instructed her. And Boaz ate, and his heart was cheerful. He went to lie down at the end of the heap of grain, and she came softly and uncovered his feet. (Ruth 3:4-7) Please Note: Though Ruth’s actions were to display her willingness to betroth herself over to Boaz, he rightfully withheld until he could know for sure if he could take her as his wife.
  • The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. (1 Corinthians 7:4-5)
  • For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God; that no one should take advantage of and defraud his brother in this matter, because the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also forewarned you and testified. (1 Thessalonians 4:3-6 NKJV) Please Note: Commentary by A. R. FAUSSET:  how to possess his vessel--rather as Greek, "how to acquire (get for himself) his own vessel," that is, that each should have his own wife so as to avoid fornication ( 1Th 4:3 1Cr 7:2 ). The emphatical position of "his own" in the Greek, and the use of "vessel" for wife, in 1Pe 3:7, and in common Jewish phraseology, and the correct translation "acquire," all justify this rendering. In sanctification-- ( Rom 6:19 1Cr 6:15, 18 ). Thus, "his own" stands in opposition to dishonoring his brother by lusting after his wife ( 1Th 4:6 ). (see RSV that uses the word "wife" instead of "vessel" in this passage)
  • Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge. (Hebrews 13:4)


Giving Heed to God's Word
Now the Spirit expressly says that in latter times some will depart from the faith, giving heed to deceiving spirits and doctrines of demons, speaking lies in hypocrisy, having their own conscience seared with a hot iron, forbidding to marry, and commanding to abstain from foods which God created to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe and know the truth. (1 Timothy 4:1-3)

The Puritan's View of Sex in Marriage

Nathan W. Bingham • Feb 14, 2014

There are many caricatures and misinformation when it comes to how Christians through the ages have viewed sex in marriage. In Dr. Joel R. Beekeʼs Living for Godʼs Glory: An Introduction to Calvinism, he dedicates a chapter to marriage, in which he discusses the Puritanʼs view.

Marital love must be sexual, so that both marital partners can give themselves fully to each other with joy and exuberance in a healthy relationship marked by fidelity. Reformers such as Martin Luther, Ulrich Zwingli, and John Calvin established this aspect of marriage by abandoning the medieval Roman Catholic attitudes that marriage was inferior to celibacy, that all sexual contact between marital partners was a necessary evil to propagate the human race, and that a procreative act that involved passion was inherently sinful.

This negative view was rooted in the ancient church and based on the writings of such notables as Tertullian, Ambrose, and Jerome, all of whom believed that, even within marriage, intercourse necessarily involved sin. This attitude toward marital intimacy, which dominated the church for more than ten centuries, inevitably led to the glorification of virginity and celibacy. By the fifth century, clerics were prohibited from marrying. Two classes of Christians emerged: the “religious” (i.e., the spiritual clergy), which included monks and nuns who vowed to abstain from all sexual activity, and the “profane” (i.e., the secular laity), who, being unable to rise to the noble heights of virginity or celibacy, were conceded the right to marry.

Puritan preachers taught that the Roman Catholic view was unbiblical, even satanic. They cited Paul, who said that the prohibition of marriage is a doctrine of devils (1 Tim. 4W1–3). Even the Puritan definitions of marriage implied the conjugal act. For example, Perkins defines marriage as “the lawful conjunction of the two married persons; that is, of one man and one woman into one flesh.” In contrast with Desiderius Erasmus, who taught that ideal marriage abstained from sexual intercourse, Cotton said in a wedding sermon that those who call for marital abstinence follow the dictates of a blind mind and not those of the Holy Spirit, who says that it is not good that man should be alone.

The Puritans viewed sex within marriage as a gift of God and as an essential, enjoyable part of marriage. Gouge says that husbands and wives should cohabit “with good will and delight, willingly, readily, and cheerfully.” “They do err,” adds Perkins, “who hold that the secret coming together of man and wife cannot be without sin unless it be done for the procreation of children.”

Perkins goes on to say that marital sex is a “due debt” or “due benevolence” (1 Cor. 7W3) that a couple owes to one another. That must be shown, he says, “with a singular and entire affection one towards another” in three ways: “First, by the right and lawful use of their bodies or of the marriage bed.” Such physical intimacy by “holy usage” should be “a holy and undefiled action (Heb. 13W4)... sanctified by the word and prayer (1 Tim. 4W3–4).” The fruits of God-honoring, enjoyable sex in marriage are the blessing of children, “the preservation of the body in cleanness,” and the reflection of marriage as a type of the Christ-church relationship. Second, married couples must “cherish one another” intimately (Eph. 5W29) rather than having sex in an impersonal way as an adulterer with a prostitute. Third, a couple should be intimate “by an holy kind of rejoicing and solacing themselves each with the other in a mutual declaration of the signs and tokens of love and kindness (Prov. 5W18–19; Songs 1W1; Gen. 26W8; Isa. 62W7).” In this context, Perkins particularly mentions kissing.

Other Puritans stressed the romantic side of marriage as they compared the love of a husband to Godʼs love for His own. Thomas Hooker writes, “The man whose heart is endeared to the woman he loves, he dreams of her in the night, hath her in his eye and apprehension when he awakes, museth on her as he sits at table, walks with her when he travels and parlies with her in each place where he comes.” He adds: “She lies in his Bosom, and his heart trusts in her, which forceth all to confess, that the stream of his affection, like a mighty current, runs with full tide and strength.”

The emphasis on romance within marriage (rather than in extramarital relations, as was common in the Middle Ages) has often been attributed to the Puritans. Herbert W. Richardson writes that “the rise of romantic marriage and its validation by the Puritans represents a major innovation within the Christian tradition.” And C. S. Lewis says, “The conversion of courtly love into romantic monogamous love was largely the work of... Puritan poets.”

The Puritans took the matrimonial duty of sex so seriously that failure to extend “due benevolence” by either partner could be grounds for church discipline. There is at least one case on record in which a husband was excommunicated for “neglecting his wife” by not having intercourse with her for a long period of time.



THE BASICS
According to God’s word, we are to be (1)teaching children God's truth and educating our children to be fruitful and productive individuals. Young boys at a very early age should be nurtured and guided for a future career that will help them be able to support a family as well as be beneficial to society. Likewise, young girls should be taught what it takes to be a good wife and how to raise a family. But most of all, we should be teaching them about our Awesome God and Creator, showing them at a very early age what Christianity is all about. Women should be even singing and reading the bible out loud to them while they are still in the womb. For this is pleasing to the Lord.

But, what are we really doing? Well, there’s mindless video games, nonsense cartoons and kid shows, as well as the over indulgence of sports which we have allowed to plagued our youth. Also, young women have been duped in believing that they must pursue a career outside the home. Likewise, Young men are pushed out of their homes into collages with the false idea that they must have a degree to exceed in this life. And unfortunately, our system of thinking believes this and has given into it.

Now let’s not forget discipline (spanking your children). It seems our society today thinks it knows better than God on how to correct our children. For His word tells us not to spare the (2)rod of correction, for in applying it you’re actually showing more (3)love than you would if you withheld it. But unfortunately, you can get into big (4)trouble if you take a belt to your child these days. Again, this is all about our corrupt way of thinking that we know better than God, but the truth of the matter is, we don’t.

So, in conclusion to all this, let's dare to stand on God's word and not on man's. Let us use God given wisdom and discernment in everything we do. For His Holy Spirit is to be our teacher, whether it be how to raise and discipline our children, or even how to sex educate them. We can always trust in Him for guidance. Amen 

Article Notes:

  1. the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things-- that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, [to be] discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed. Likewise, exhort the young men to be sober-minded, in all things showing yourself [to be] a pattern of good works; in doctrine [showing] integrity, reverence, incorruptibility, sound speech that cannot be condemned, that one who is an opponent may be ashamed, having nothing evil to say of you. (Titus 2:3-8 NKJV)
  2. (a)Folly fastens itself to the heart of a child, for the rod and instruction are far from him. (Proverbs 22:18 Sept.) (b)Do not withhold instruction from a child, for if you should strike him with a rod, he would not die; for you shall strike him with a rod and deliver his soul from death.” (Proverbs 23:13-15 Sept.) (c)Blows and reproofs give wisdom, but a child who goes astray shames his parents. (Proverbs 29:15 Sept.)
  3. He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him instructs him with care. (Proverbs 13:24 Sept.)
  4. According to Fox News Latino – In Corpus Christi Texas, A mom was sentenced to probation and has lost custody of her children for spanking her daughter. The article said: Rosalina Gonzales of Corpus Christi pleaded guilty on Wednesday to injury to a child for swatting the 2-year-old on her buttocks. According to prosecutors, Gonzales in December hit the girl with an open hand, leaving red marks. Police arrested Gonzales after the child’s grandmother reported the injuries and took the child to a hospital. Gonzales will serve five years’ probation, take parenting classes and follow guidelines laid out by Child Protective Services. KZTV10.com reports that the ruling judge in the case make it clear that spanking is a crime. “You don’t spank children today.” Judge Jose Longoria is quoted as having said. “In the old days, maybe we got spanked, but there was different quarrel. You don’t spank children.”   Published June 21, 2011 / Fox News Latino


Scripture Reference:

  • For I know he will order his sons and his house after him. They will keep the way of the Lord, to do righteousness and judgment, that the Lord may bring upon Abraham what He has spoken to him. (Genesis 18:19, Septuagint)
  • Only take heed to yourself and diligently guard your soul, lest you forget all the things your eyes saw, and lest they depart from your heart all the days of your life; and you shall teach them to your sons and the sons of your sons, especially concerning the day you stood before the Lord your God in Horeb on the day of assembly, when the Lord said to me, ‘Gather the people to Me and let them hear My words, so they may learn to fear Me all the days they live on the earth, and may teach their sons. (Deuteronomy 4:9-10, Septuagint)
  • So these words I command you today shall be in your heart and in your soul. You shall teach them to your sons, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and it shall be immovable before your eyes; and you shall write them on the doorposts of your houses and on your gates. (Deuteronomy 6:6-9, Septuagint)
  • What things we heard, these we also knew, and our fathers described them to us. It was not hidden from their children in a different generation, who declare the praises of the Lord and His mighty deeds and His wondrous things He did. He raised up a testimony in Jacob and appointed a law in Israel, whatever He commanded our fathers to make these things known to their children, that a different generation may know, children yet to be born; and they will arise, and declare these things to their children, so they may put their hope in God, and not forget the works of God, and seek out His commandments, so they may not become like their fathers, a generation rebellious and embittered, a generation that did not keep its heart right, and its spirit was not faithful with God. (Psalm 77:3-8 Septuagint)
  • And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord. (Ephesians 6:4 NKJV)

Article 2.

God's True Marriage

​Pray that all would agree to it

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1. Marital Intimacy

2. God's True Marriage

3. Training Up a Child

Marital Intimacy

Pray that All Husbands and Wives would richly enjoy it

Article 3.

Now, a word to the reader:
This article is in no way condoning hatred or acts of harm to the homosexual community. They, just like anyone else need to be loved, prayed for, and treated in such a way as we ourselves would want someone to treat us. We all need God's grace and mercy and if it were not for His mercy towards us, we would all be doomed. But that being said, we should not call something a good and acceptable lifestyle that God Himself calls an abomination. The homosexual act, unless it's repented of, is a sin that can keep a person from entering into a true relationship with God which in turn can keep one from entering heaven. So those of us who are in Christ should speak the truth in love and do our best to love them into His Kingdom, because all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. But we are freely forgiven if we repent. And I hope this article as well as the Scriptures below will do just that and open blind eyes to see.

Man & the Woman = One Flesh
For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh. Now the two were naked, both Adam and his wife, and were not ashamed. (Genesis 2:24-25 Sept.)

If we would take a close look at the passage above, we would see that it says that a man shall cleave unto his wife, not a man to a man or a woman to a woman. God at the very beginning instituted the marriage relationship as it should be. Also, please note what the first chapter of Geneses says concerning man: “Then God blessed them; and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of heaven, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.” (Genesis 1:28 Sept.) This is a true God ordained marriage.

We can also see a uniqueness of the male and female relationship in that God created woman from the man. So, we can see from the very beginning that the woman and the man were designed specifically for each other, and only through this type of relationship can we have a true oneness and sexual intimacy.  Also, we have the words of Jesus Himself when He spoke to the Pharisees telling them that from the beginning “God made them male and female” and that the “two shall be one flesh.” So again, we have Jesus affirming that only through a man and woman union, can we have a true one flesh relationship.

I was Born this Way
Now I know that there are some who may claim that they were born with homosexual tendencies; and to be quite frank about it, this may be true. However, all of us are born into sin, all of us have one vice or another looming over our heads. But being born with a vice doesn't give us a license to keep indulging ourselves in it. Instead, these vises should cause us to cry out to God for deliverance. So, none of us should use this as an excuse to continue in it; but instead, we should be coming to God and ask for His help. For its only God who can truly set us free from our faults.

So my question is, are you willing to give up that which you a bound to? Let’s remember that God’s word says there are some who will not come to the light because they don't want to change. For Jesus said: "And this is the condemnation, that the light has come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. "For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed. (John 3:19-20) So we can see that there are those who are not willing to give up their sins. 

And I know from experience, that I myself at one time did not want to come to God because I wanted to do my own thing. But let us also remember that God is not a kill joy. God ways will always bring more pleasure to our lives than when we are wallowing in our sin. The pleasure that can be receive between a man and a woman is far greater than any other way. Now you may be saying that you already tried that. But have you tried it through a living relationship with God? What I mean is this, with God's Holy Spirit residing in you, all things that seem impossible before, are now possible through Him. So please turn and follow His plan and design for you, because believe me, you will not regret it.

Mercy and Grace
So in closing I would like to say that God is merciful and full of grace. God wants none to parish but for all to come to repentance. So, for those who are caught up in any sin, whether it be homosexuality or some other vice, just simply confess from your heart that you have sinned before God. He will forgive you and wash you clean by the blood of Jesus Christ that was shed for you on the cross. He will give you the strength to overcome anything. And let us remember: "For if you live according to the flesh you will die; but if by the Spirit you put to death the deeds of the body, you will live. For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, these are sons of God.(Romans 8:13-14)

So come to God today seeking Him with your whole heart “All that the Father giveth me shall come to me; and him that cometh to me I will in no wise cast out” (John 6:37). Amen, God is so Awesome.

Scripture Reference Concerning:

Male and Female
Then God said, “Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness. Let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of heaven, over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that moves on the earth.” So God made man; in the image of God He made him; male and female He made them. Then God blessed them; and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of heaven, and over every living thing that moves on the earth. (Genesis 1:26-28 Sept.)
Thus God brought a trance upon Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and filled up the flesh in its place. Then the Lord God built the rib He took from Adam into a woman, and brought her to him. So Adam said, “This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh. She shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh.” Now the two were naked, both Adam and his wife, and were not ashamed. (Genesis 2:22-25 Sept.)
But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. (Mark 10:6-9)

God’s Law
If a man lies with a male as he lies with a woman, both committed an abomination. They shall be put to death, for they are guilty. (Leviticus 20:13 Sept.)
For this reason God gave them up to vile passions. For even their women exchanged the natural use for what is against nature. Likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust for one another, men with men committing what is shameful, and receiving in themselves the penalty of their error which was due. (Romans 1:26-27)
Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God. (1 Corinthians 6:9-10)
But we know that the law is good if one uses it lawfully, knowing this: that the law is not made for a righteous person, but for [the] lawless and insubordinate, for [the] ungodly and for sinners, for the unholy and profane, for murderers of fathers and murderers of mothers, for manslayers, for fornicators, for sodomites, for kidnappers, for liars, for perjurers, and if there is any other thing that is contrary to sound doctrine, (1 Timothy 1:8-10)
But the Scripture has confined all under sin, that the promise by faith in Jesus Christ might be given to those who believe. But before faith came, we were kept under guard by the law, kept for the faith which would afterward be revealed. Therefore the law was our tutor to bring us to Christ, that we might be justified by faith. But after faith has come, we are no longer under a tutor. (Galatians 3:22-25)

God's Mercy
"For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. "For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved. (John 3:16-17)
for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, being justified freely by His grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus, (Romans 3:23-24)
If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. (1 John 1:9)

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Awake, O north wind, and come, O south wind; Blow through my garden and let my spices flow out. Let my beloved come to his garden and eat of its fruits. (Song of Songs 4:16)