Pray that All would Embrace Their Place
Man and the Woman before the fall
And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth. So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. (Genesis 1:26-27)
From the creation account above, I do believe that before the fall, there was a natural unity and harmony between the man and the woman, each one knowing his and her place in life instinctively. There in the garden, we can see from God's word that man was a vegetarian and ate from the fruit trees and vegetables as well. Here, there was harmony between the man and his wife as well as with the animals. But most of all, it was that beautiful relationship that man had with God, being not yet tainted by sin.
Man and Woman after the Fall
Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee. (Genesis 3:16)
Now for starters I would like to be clear on one thing and that would be this; that the man IS NOT better than or more superior to the woman, nor is she his personal slave. She is his companion and an important part of his life. For God's word says in Genesis that both the man and the woman are made in the (1)image of God, which shows that she is not a lesser being than the man. We are all (2)one in Christ Jesus and just as important to Him. The only difference would be our God given earthly roles that He bestowed upon us. We can see this in nature itself by observing that the males are generally larger and stronger than the females. This would naturally place the males in a place of dominance and rule over the female, but not in any way inferring that one is better than the other.
Now because of the fall of mankind and sin now entering into the world, things started to change for the worse on the earth. Therefor God felt it necessary to make it very clear that the man is still to have the (3)rule over the woman and she is to be in subjection unto him. Now let us not believe that before the fall there was no male dominance over the female. For we can mistakenly come to this conclusion by the scripture quoted above, however God’s Word clearly states otherwise. For we can read in Paul's first letter to Timothy that it says that the woman is not to (4)“usurp authority over the man” because “Adam was first formed, then Eve.” Also, we have Paul’s first letter to the Corinthians stating that man was not created for the woman, but the woman for the man, thus showing that from the very beginning (before the fall) God had created the man to be head over the woman.
Again, according to the passage quoted above, we read that the woman's desire is going to be for her husband. This is the same wording as it is in chapter 4 of Genesis where we read: "And the LORD said unto Cain, Why art thou wroth? and why is thy countenance fallen? If thou doest well, shalt thou not be accepted? and if thou doest not well, sin lieth at the door. And unto thee shall be his desire, and thou shalt rule over him. (Genesis 4:6-7) So we see in these two passages that this word (5)"desire" is speaks of having ones will and way over someone else and not a sexual desire. This is true because God told Adam and Eve to be "fruitful and multiply" before the fall which would come to reason that they already had sexual desires for one another. So, this desire here pronounced upon the woman would be part of the curse, which would be an unnatural desire to have her will and way over her husbands. However, God says to the woman (and those women of today) "he shall rule over you."
We must be diligent to stand on the truth of God’s Word and not try to water it down with our own theology. It seems there’s this urge to try to (6)twist or bend God's Word in such a way that it would be appealing to all. And isn't it true that we do this because we are so afraid of offending someone? And it's no wonder why we have such disorder in the church today as well as in our homes? It’s time we stand up for the truth of God’s Word and take our rightful places in life (both the man and the woman). So I hope that's what we will do, because to do anything otherwise would only be thwarting a (7)divine commandment of God, and that would not be wise.
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Giving Honor unto the Wife
And this have ye done again, covering the altar of the LORD with tears, with weeping, and with crying out, insomuch that he regardeth not the offering any more, or receiveth it with good will at your hand. Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant. And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. (Malachi 2:13-15)
It is obvious from scripture that the man is to show (1)respect and honor to his wife. Just because the man has a God given authority over his wife does not mean that she is to be looked down upon or to be treated as inferior. Does not scripture say that the man is to (2)love his wife’s as his own body? A wife is a blessing to the husband and an important part of his life. In fact, in Proverbs 31:10-31 it says that a virtuous woman is prized far above rubies and is a blessing to her husband. So, why does one (3)divorce his wife and marry another, treating her like an object that can be traded in for another. She is a person that is (4)precious and just as important in the eyes of God as any man. For we can see from the scripture quoted above in Malachi as well as the one below from (5)Matthew’s gospel, that God hates divorce.
The Man's Place in Life
But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel. (1 Timothy 5:8)
According to the passage above, a man is to be the (1)provider for his household. He is to work and do all he can to provide food on the table for his family and clothing on their backs. For God’s word condemns (2)laziness and anyone who is a slacker. In fact, according to the bible passage quoted above, God says that such a man is worse than an unbeliever. Now that’s pretty bad. Now let it be said, I don’t believe this is condemning those men who are struggling to make ends meet. For sometimes things happen that can put people into predicaments that are out of their control. But in all things, God will meet their needs and see them through if they trust Him and put their hope in Him. So, let all of us who are men do our best by loving our wives according to scripture and help (3)train our children in the way they should go. This would include teaching them the truth of God’s word and not to be (4)harsh with them or harass them to anger.
The Woman's Place in Life
The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. (Titus 2:3-5)
According the scripture above, women should be passing on to the next generation of women the important role of being keepers of the home. However, we see the opposite happening. For young women are being shipped off to pursue a degree in some collage so that they can have a career outside the home which is not consistent with God’s word. Also, mothers are sending off their young children to strangers in some day care so that they can work a job or pursue some career. Should they not be at home teaching and instilling Godly values to their own children instead of letting someone else teach them who knows what? Even the Military as well as the police force has open its doors to woman which goes against nature. For woman are to bring life into the world, not to take it out. Unfortunately, this is all part of the fall of mankind. For women feel they need to venture in areas outside their home in order to be recognized as being important or even equal to men. But the truth of it all is, a woman's role in the home is just as vital, if not even more important than any job outside of it. For she has the God given role to "train a child in the way they should go" which molds and shapes that child's future. What job can be more important than that?
Now, I don't believe that a woman must only stay within the confines of their home. For there are community programs where they as well the their children can get involved in. Also, there are family own businesses which they could help to run. This also would be a great way for their children to get involved, teaching them from a very early age how to be fruitful and productive in life. But again, these businesses should not get in the way of her most important calling which would be tending to her immediate family. For a mother and wife's first priority is always to be there for her children as well as for her husband. This is not a commandment from me, but from God himself. This is all consistent with God's word as we can see from the book of (1)Proverbs below. Of course, there are also those women who choose to be single or have not married yet. These same women can get involved in a job in their community. However, this all depends on their situation at home. For if they are needed to stay at home by their immediate family, (such as helping to take care of her siblings or any aging parents) she needs to forsake what she is doing and attended to her family first. However, if she gets married, her first priority would be toward her husband and any children that follows.
Now, for all you parents who are sending your daughters away from the protection and comfort of the home into college campuses and dorms. You might as well be throwing them into a shark tank and tell them: "sink or swim honey, and oh by the way, remember to watch out for the sharks." Isn't this true? For there are those out there which have other interests in mind for your daughters, and believe me, it's not for their good. For there are night clubs, parties and all sorts of guys they can hang out and get in trouble with. Is that really something you want for your daughters? Don't get caught up in this corrupt system that says you need a degree to make it in this life, because it's a demonic lie. The truth of the matter is, life has gone on just fine without a degree in the past, and this for both men and women. So, my advice to you parents; keep your daughters at home until they’re ready for marriage. They can always help out around the house and find extra work in the local businesses while they’re still single. It's all for their good. Amen
Know having said all this, I realize that our current world system (at least here in America) has made it hard for a couple to make it financially with only one person working outside of the home. Unfortunately, we have brought this upon ourselves because of greed. A get rich and let's retire early mentality can bring a nation to ruin. Oh, wouldn't be nice, if all woman were as the Provers 31 woman and men as the Ephesians 5 husband.
Leaders in the Church
Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression. (1 Timothy 2:11-14)
It is very clear from the scriptures, both in the Old Testament as well as the New, that the (1)leadership positions in the church are to be held only by men and never by a woman. If we look at the Old Testament we can see that all the (2)priestly positions were never held by a woman. Likewise, if we look at the New Testament Church, we can see that all twelve of the apostles were held only by men. Wouldn’t it make sense if Jesus wanted to have women in (3)leadership positions in the New Testament church, he would have at least chose one woman, perhaps maybe Mary Magdalen to be one of His apostles. But it is so clear from Paul’s letters that no woman is to take on any form of (4)leadership within the church assembly, not even among other women. This is because it was Eve that was deceived by the devil and not man, and not only that, she was deceived even in her perfect state before the fall. So this now being the case, how much more can a woman be deceived in her fallen state, whether she is a Christian or not? So, when it comes to (5)teaching and leading an assembly of Christians, it is only to be done by a man and never a woman. This is true also when it comes to a woman's group as well. For we see in God's word that the only gathering of woman recorded was a prayer group that was held by a river (Acts 16:13, see references commentary below). But as far as teaching others, they can only be (6)teachers of children and of younger woman to be keepers of the home.
However, the scriptures do teach that women can take part within the church as (7)prophets and as deacons. Now it must be understood that this word (8)deacon does not mean a church leader or teacher but one who serves in the church, whether they are a man or a woman. We can see this to be true from Acts chapter 6 where it talks about Stephen who was appointed as a deacon in the church to serve tables (see: Acts 6:3 and 1 Timothy 3:8-13).
Now I know that some of you may be thinking about (9)Deborah, who was a Judge and a prophet in Israel. While it is true that she was holding these two positions, this still would not qualify her to take on a role as a priest or a religious teacher. Prophets speak as God gives them utterance and Judges administer justice. But that does not give them license to take on roles that’s not given to them. Again, we can see this to be true where a woman was never given the role of a (10)Priest or an apostle, but only men. We must remember that even (11)King Saul, who was an anointed King in Israel, got into trouble for taking on the duties of a Priest.
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